The most terrifying question in the world.

Do you want to make a man sweat or squirm?  Ask him the most terrifying question in the world:  “How do you feel?”

Our mouths will form the words, “Fine, okay, good, etc.”  Our brains will be in full on “Red Alert” mode!!  The red lights are flashing, the sirens are sounding!  The command and control is shouting, “Dive, dive, dive!!”  We want to get out of there as fast as possible!

“How do we feel?”  What kind of question is that?  Why do you want to know?  What are you looking for?  Society tells men that we don’t have feelings.  We’re tough.  We chew nails, chop down trees, and kill wooly mammoths with our own hands!

We. Do. Not. Have. Feelings.

And we most certainly do NOT talk about them.  At least, that’s what I used to think…turns out recognizing our emotions and sharing them is KEY to recovery.  KEY!! Continue reading

Major trigger event – total surprise!

I logged onto my blog and email to check for visitors and found a message from Facebook that they had deactivated my page because it was not linked to a real account.  I went into an immediate emotional tailspin unlike anything I’ve felt in a long time.  I was shocked at how strong the feelings were and immediately recognized it as a major trigger event.  Wow!  I didn’t think I would have those anymore, but all I can say is, “Yes, I still have them.”  The difference is I recognized it for what it was and immediately went into Continue reading